Online Dating Disaster

Let me share to you an online dating story e-mailed to me by one of my colleague, some of the information was edited to keep the person’s identity.

The story is about online dating gone wrong, but will give you an ending that will surely going to give all of us a great lesson.

Kristie is a late 30’s single woman who is very independent yet still believes in wonderful ending of a love story. Kristie would always want to have an ideal boyfriend or lover who could treat her right, because Kristie was having a hard time getting over an ex-boyfriend of 15 years. One night when she is checking something over the internet, she was able to browse her way to an online dating site. She joined the chat room and eventually a guy named, Ted buzz into her to get her attention.

Ted lives in the neighboring state as indicated in his profile, and from the course of their chatting, Kristie and Ted hit it off immediately so they chat almost everyday but with an inconsistent timing because Ted is working as a manager in a hotel. Ted gave Kristie his mobile number because it is the easiest way she can reach him and the phone number at work, wherein Ted stays more hours than his home. It seems that surprises never stops until Ted finally invited Kristie for a dinner.

They have their dinner in a cozy Tex-Mex restaurant, at first they seated opposite with each other but then Ted requested Kristie to seat beside her because sitting opposite to her seem to far for him. As soon as they were seated together Ted kissed her by surprise and stare like she was the only beautiful lady inside the restaurant. The dinner went out well and it is really an intimate one. Until they reached his car in the parking lot, Ted told Kristie that she was the most wonderful that ever happened to him and that he is starting to fall for her. Kristie being in a post break-up with the long time boyfriend is a very vulnerable and very hopeless romantic, would have wanted this magical moment to last.

After that first encounter, there were more dates followed, a most of it is an intimate one. They ended up always making love after each date. A very passionate love with a very romantic man who would always say I love you to Kristie, who wouldn’t fall for that kind of man?

Then one day, Ted emailed Kristie, confiding that he is actually a married guy. He told her that he could want everything about them to last and would still want to go on with the relationship. But he cannot leave her wife because the wife swears to take away the child from Ted, and Ted said he cannot live without the kids. So he let the choice befell on the weight of Kristie’s shoulder. Ted even told her that he swear never to touch his wife if Kristie will agree to be her mistress. With a mail like that Kristie could only say “How could you lie to me like that? I don’t want to see you ever again!”

That was the last conversation they have, after that, Kristie still find Ted joining different chat room in the same dating site. Kristie found Ted really a terrible liar and a cheater. She wonder how could a man like can manage to look in the mirror and lie over and over again. But Kristie thought that it is better to know about the lies and deceit after just a couple of months rather than go far longer a relationship that is built on lies.