Long Distance Relationship

Do you have what it takes to be involved in a long-distance relationship? How long can you endure the struggle of a relationship that makes lovers far apart from each other? Have you ever wonder how much patience you need to be able to go through a relationship that needs greater love and affection even if you are miles away from each other?

Some people think that being in LDR is easy but reality bites when you realized how hard is it to work things out if your partner is on the other side of the world. Making thing smooth and easy is not a piece of cake but, it is actually a gruesome undertaking to keep the flames alive. 

What do you think are the qualities of individuals who can make a long distance relationship work?

You need a lots and lots and lots of patience. You don't need it just for now, you need it with every bits of second your lover is not around. You need to realize that this virtue is the thing you need to keep the love alive. It is not just the patience you allot for waiting, but it is also the patience to understand every possible reason why you have to be far away from each other.

You always have to be positive, you don't want your mind to smothered with negative thought that would ruin your relationship with your partner. You need to trust one another, you don't need to doubt the person in the other end. Never entertain the thought that he/she might find someone else and forget about you, everything will start to fall apart if you do. People made mistakes and so do you, if you think you are no longer willing to work things out, at least let the other person know about it by dropping a hint. It is better that the person know it straight from you rather than hearing the bad news from other people.

You need to trusts the person you love. Trust that he/she won't break your heart, trust that he will do good even if temptations are around. And most of all trust your instict if something is not quite right. Ask questions if you have the inkling about some things that doesn't quite sit on your thought.

You need to communicate more often. Technology nowadays has provided us a better way to be in touch with our loved ones even if they are oceans away from us. Skyping, Facebooking, chatting, video calling and other communication apps that you can utilize to always stay in touch, never let your busy schedule stop you from saying something sweet to your dear love.

If you are the type of person who always wants a hug and a touch from the one you love then you can not be in a long distance relationship because it might ruin you. I believed that only "extraordinary strong people" could be able to endure the test of being in a long distance love affair. You need to show the strenght to behave rightfully when no one is watching and you need to show that you are unbreakable even if your heart is breaking.
 

I am living in a long distance relationship for 8 long years and I think I still have long way to go and I am still working hard to keep the marriage alive. I may not be able to touch, hug and kiss my husband but I still find unusual ways on how to express my love without being caught up with depressing thought about the time he is not beside me.

Sometime You Don't Need to Think

There are some point in time that you feel you are in control. Totally in control of everything, more specially your own life. You do things  your way, you do it perfectly, and you know how to make things happen without thinking of any possibility of delay or interruption. And that is how a single person does with their lives each day. They thought everything will just go the way they wanted it to be, and they are not open to any possibilities that their life is going to change even if they never planned any of it. That is how I thought about life when I was single, I thought that I can just be someone I wanted to be, I can decide on any thing with my life without thinking that there is someone I need to share my decisions with. I am single, I am free, I am careful and most of all I don't care.



One day, one of the strangest thing happened and wouldn't thought that this will change my life forever. I am free, I got to do what I want to do, then there's this guy who started to care, started to show that he needs me more than a friend, more than a girlfriend, and he wanted to be my husband. That was like a space rocket going out of the Earth's hemisphere, and you feel like you are floating weightlessly not because you are in a cloud 9, but because it feels like it's the end of your single world. That is what I exactly feels the first time I heard about marriage. I got so many sleepless nights thinking of everything I need to let go and think of the things I can no longer do. And that is why I know that so many people just ran out of proposal and say no! Not every woman or man could ever say yes to such a lifetime commitment.

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But there is only one thing I did that moment, I stop thinking. I quit thinking of the things I am about to loose. I quit thinking of how my life would be with him. I just quit thinking about everything that matters, and I just did stop thinking. And I am so happy I did that because I have been celebrating decades of wedding anniversary I have been enjoying every year with the very same man, I married from decades ago. And all I can say, sometime you just need to stop thinking at all. And be happy if that partnership will last till eternity.

You're All Around Me

I really cannot think of any topic to blog today, and yet as I was listening to the radio, wherein the hosts were conversing about a particular topic like "My lovelife is like a __________ because ______________." The DJ's wanted their listener to tweet which funny stuff or serious stuff would fill the blank. And I thought I would want to fill it up, some of the entries say:

"My love life is like a pimple, sometimes it's ok but sometime it hurts!"

"My love life is like a wine, because the older it become the better it was!"

"My love life is like a light, sometimes it is turned on, sometimes it's turned off!"

"My love life is like a beer, it's cold, and super dry!" (LOL)

My entry says:

"My love life is like a wind because you can never see nor touch it but you can totally feel it!" Not so funny but seriously that is how I feel right now. I have been married to a guy who have been away working afar. I just know he is always there to love me no matter how I look like and no matter how I become after all of those years. I cannot visibly touch him and cannot even hug him but for the longest time we have been apart, I could never imagine how he could make me feel loved by simply going online. It is hard to maintain a long distance relationship and yet we still would want ours to work out. And I am so proud to say he never ceases to amaze me with sweet nothings, and with just a simple smile from his face upon seeing me means a lot to me. I may never say that I have a perfect relationship but I know, I am happy with what we have right now.

The Choice For a Happy Life

Base on statistics, there are 7 billions of people inhabiting the planet right now. And funny to think that though there are billions and billions of people there are still lots of people looking and waiting for the perfect kind of love to happen to them. Some just keep on waiting without noticing that the person they are about to love is just the boy who always stays next door. Or the person is just a regular employee in the office, or someone who accidentally lends you an umbrella in the middle of the heavy rain. Actually we will never know when the right one comes, but it is always our choice to make things happen in our lives. We are entitled to be happy at all times even if there are turbulence one in a while but the choice is always ours to make never somebody else choice, but us alone.

If we have the means to look for the person who could be our partner for life, then we better do it. I insist that you find your own happiness in anyway you could, but make sure you are well guided by your conscience. What I am trying to say is you can find your partner who are also single, never steal another beings partner because you won’t like it if it happens to you. If you really are a very busy person then you should try finding your luck in dating sites. Looking for a partner online is not just a trend but it’s advisable to do for a busy world like us. At least in an online set-up you got the chance to know the person very well before you hit it off. You have more chances to see the real person first, disregarding the looks and all the other matter, what is so important is the compatibility and that both parties are having an extraordinary connection. A connection only the two of you could ever understand. And loving and being love is one thing on Earth you can never explain, so quit asking too many why’s on people who are madly in love. Haven’t you heard people who can travel on the other end of the world just to be with the person they truly love? Haven’t you heard stories about crossing the oceans, rivers, mountains, and continents just to be with the person you care about the most? And there are also stories of great people who change the course of history because of the love they had for each other, does Cleopatra and Mark Anthony an example of these odds?

Being in love and being loved back is never a chance it is always a choice, like they use to say about destiny, I rather believe that destiny is the choice we made not just a thing meant for us. We are the one who will carve our lives, so better choose the path and the person who could truly makes us happy and never settles for anything and someone less.

Online Dating Disaster

Let me share to you an online dating story e-mailed to me by one of my colleague, some of the information was edited to keep the person’s identity.

The story is about online dating gone wrong, but will give you an ending that will surely going to give all of us a great lesson.

Kristie is a late 30’s single woman who is very independent yet still believes in wonderful ending of a love story. Kristie would always want to have an ideal boyfriend or lover who could treat her right, because Kristie was having a hard time getting over an ex-boyfriend of 15 years. One night when she is checking something over the internet, she was able to browse her way to an online dating site. She joined the chat room and eventually a guy named, Ted buzz into her to get her attention.

Ted lives in the neighboring state as indicated in his profile, and from the course of their chatting, Kristie and Ted hit it off immediately so they chat almost everyday but with an inconsistent timing because Ted is working as a manager in a hotel. Ted gave Kristie his mobile number because it is the easiest way she can reach him and the phone number at work, wherein Ted stays more hours than his home. It seems that surprises never stops until Ted finally invited Kristie for a dinner.

They have their dinner in a cozy Tex-Mex restaurant, at first they seated opposite with each other but then Ted requested Kristie to seat beside her because sitting opposite to her seem to far for him. As soon as they were seated together Ted kissed her by surprise and stare like she was the only beautiful lady inside the restaurant. The dinner went out well and it is really an intimate one. Until they reached his car in the parking lot, Ted told Kristie that she was the most wonderful that ever happened to him and that he is starting to fall for her. Kristie being in a post break-up with the long time boyfriend is a very vulnerable and very hopeless romantic, would have wanted this magical moment to last.

After that first encounter, there were more dates followed, a most of it is an intimate one. They ended up always making love after each date. A very passionate love with a very romantic man who would always say I love you to Kristie, who wouldn’t fall for that kind of man?

Then one day, Ted emailed Kristie, confiding that he is actually a married guy. He told her that he could want everything about them to last and would still want to go on with the relationship. But he cannot leave her wife because the wife swears to take away the child from Ted, and Ted said he cannot live without the kids. So he let the choice befell on the weight of Kristie’s shoulder. Ted even told her that he swear never to touch his wife if Kristie will agree to be her mistress. With a mail like that Kristie could only say “How could you lie to me like that? I don’t want to see you ever again!”

That was the last conversation they have, after that, Kristie still find Ted joining different chat room in the same dating site. Kristie found Ted really a terrible liar and a cheater. She wonder how could a man like can manage to look in the mirror and lie over and over again. But Kristie thought that it is better to know about the lies and deceit after just a couple of months rather than go far longer a relationship that is built on lies.

Your Online Dating Help

We hear a lot of things about internet dating, the failure and the good results of it. But we may never know what online dating is all about unless we tried it right? No matter what the age and the distance was there is no way that online dating won’t be of help if you feel lonely at nights. And if you feel like talking to someone who is very attractive and interesting, just go online and you will find people who can be your buddy or your lover. 

Actually there are so plenty of stories regarding internet dating but I have browsed upon a video that is so funny and at the same time informative. It says all the things that I wanted to imply. So if you feel like you need to know how you can have a winning moment with your internet dating, you better try to watch this funny but helpful video right now.

You can always choose to believe, follow or obey what the guy in the video is trying to tell. But for me it is so true and really fun way to treat online dating in our modern society. So you choose to be lonely at home or you choose to have fun while waiting for the right one to come along?

 Basically, online dating was created so that guys and girls will overcome their fear of being rejected by a prospect lover. Honestly, rejection from someone you care about is painful but never too painful when you go online. Why? It’s because there is always someone, somewhere willing to talk to you at anytime. So why waste up more time trying to feel alone? Join the modern bandwagon of dating; there is no harm in trying!

Distant Age Doesn't Matter

There were plenty of story to tell regarding online dating. Almost everyone is so aware that this kind of dating always paired up with the pro's and the con's. But no matter what was happening around online dating, it is sure to give a wonderful experience to the person who have experience it. And some people will attest to the negative effect of this set-up. But before we dig into the negative aspect of online dating let us see and hear first wonderful stories that will truly inspire people from different places and different walk of life.

 

The story is about a widow in her late 40's, let us call her Mrs. Fox. For almost a month she is so devastated for the lost of her husband, during the course of depression she used to go out and dine in the restaurant where she and her husband used to dine. She wanted to remember everything about their relationship but it won't change the fact that her husband is gone. One day a friend from that restaurant told her to try reading things over the internet so she could refrain from reminding herself of her husband's memory. So the least she could do is to try working her way into the internet. One day while she was browsing, she joined a chat room and one guy who identified himself as Mr. Wolf send her an invite for a private messaging, and without a hesitation she accepted the invite and they end up chatting for more than an hour. And through the course of the chatting Mrs. Fox discovered that Mr. Wolf is 15 years her junior. But despite of the age difference they still get along with different issues and topic and obviously Mr. Wolf disregarded the distance between their ages.

 From that day forward they continue having conversation through IM's, Skype and phone calls. They were able to have a good and meaningful talk about a lot of things about life, and through it Mrs. Fox life was never the same again. After a few months they both decided to meet, Mrs. Fox was really nervous because she is afraid that Mr. Wolf will not going to like her in person. But all her fears disappeared when Mr. Wolf patiently waited for her in the mid table of the restaurant they pick. Mr. Wolf wear the all-out smile, hugged her, gave her a gentle kiss on the cheeks and led her to her chair. That was a nice dinner that pave way to a relationship that lead to marriage. Despite the disapproval of Mrs. Fox's children, and despite of the age difference, the two still pursue with the wedding plans and have it done. They have found heaven in each others arm and they are still happily married until now. but we may never have been married if Mr. Wolf wouldn't have told Mrs. Fox these words, "The moment I heard about you and your story, it never crossed my mind that you are older than me, all I know is that you are good enough for me because I love the way you see the beauty in every person. And most of all, I am not looking for a mom, when I said I want to marry you. I am definitely looking for a wife."

Up to now, the new Mrs. Wolf still remember the words uttered by his husband, it makes her laugh because it's funny but it touches her heart at the same time, because she never would have realized that if she didn't give online dating a break, she would never have found another husband who is willing to love her despite of all the odds. 

  

Sometimes things just happen even if we don't plan for it. And even if a lot of people say that finding the date via the internet is not working at all, you might as well want to try, so the next time you will be the one with a wonderful and inspiring true story about online dating.