Sometime You Don't Need to Think

There are some point in time that you feel you are in control. Totally in control of everything, more specially your own life. You do things  your way, you do it perfectly, and you know how to make things happen without thinking of any possibility of delay or interruption. And that is how a single person does with their lives each day. They thought everything will just go the way they wanted it to be, and they are not open to any possibilities that their life is going to change even if they never planned any of it. That is how I thought about life when I was single, I thought that I can just be someone I wanted to be, I can decide on any thing with my life without thinking that there is someone I need to share my decisions with. I am single, I am free, I am careful and most of all I don't care.



One day, one of the strangest thing happened and wouldn't thought that this will change my life forever. I am free, I got to do what I want to do, then there's this guy who started to care, started to show that he needs me more than a friend, more than a girlfriend, and he wanted to be my husband. That was like a space rocket going out of the Earth's hemisphere, and you feel like you are floating weightlessly not because you are in a cloud 9, but because it feels like it's the end of your single world. That is what I exactly feels the first time I heard about marriage. I got so many sleepless nights thinking of everything I need to let go and think of the things I can no longer do. And that is why I know that so many people just ran out of proposal and say no! Not every woman or man could ever say yes to such a lifetime commitment.

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But there is only one thing I did that moment, I stop thinking. I quit thinking of the things I am about to loose. I quit thinking of how my life would be with him. I just quit thinking about everything that matters, and I just did stop thinking. And I am so happy I did that because I have been celebrating decades of wedding anniversary I have been enjoying every year with the very same man, I married from decades ago. And all I can say, sometime you just need to stop thinking at all. And be happy if that partnership will last till eternity.

You're All Around Me

I really cannot think of any topic to blog today, and yet as I was listening to the radio, wherein the hosts were conversing about a particular topic like "My lovelife is like a __________ because ______________." The DJ's wanted their listener to tweet which funny stuff or serious stuff would fill the blank. And I thought I would want to fill it up, some of the entries say:

"My love life is like a pimple, sometimes it's ok but sometime it hurts!"

"My love life is like a wine, because the older it become the better it was!"

"My love life is like a light, sometimes it is turned on, sometimes it's turned off!"

"My love life is like a beer, it's cold, and super dry!" (LOL)

My entry says:

"My love life is like a wind because you can never see nor touch it but you can totally feel it!" Not so funny but seriously that is how I feel right now. I have been married to a guy who have been away working afar. I just know he is always there to love me no matter how I look like and no matter how I become after all of those years. I cannot visibly touch him and cannot even hug him but for the longest time we have been apart, I could never imagine how he could make me feel loved by simply going online. It is hard to maintain a long distance relationship and yet we still would want ours to work out. And I am so proud to say he never ceases to amaze me with sweet nothings, and with just a simple smile from his face upon seeing me means a lot to me. I may never say that I have a perfect relationship but I know, I am happy with what we have right now.

The Choice For a Happy Life

Base on statistics, there are 7 billions of people inhabiting the planet right now. And funny to think that though there are billions and billions of people there are still lots of people looking and waiting for the perfect kind of love to happen to them. Some just keep on waiting without noticing that the person they are about to love is just the boy who always stays next door. Or the person is just a regular employee in the office, or someone who accidentally lends you an umbrella in the middle of the heavy rain. Actually we will never know when the right one comes, but it is always our choice to make things happen in our lives. We are entitled to be happy at all times even if there are turbulence one in a while but the choice is always ours to make never somebody else choice, but us alone.

If we have the means to look for the person who could be our partner for life, then we better do it. I insist that you find your own happiness in anyway you could, but make sure you are well guided by your conscience. What I am trying to say is you can find your partner who are also single, never steal another beings partner because you won’t like it if it happens to you. If you really are a very busy person then you should try finding your luck in dating sites. Looking for a partner online is not just a trend but it’s advisable to do for a busy world like us. At least in an online set-up you got the chance to know the person very well before you hit it off. You have more chances to see the real person first, disregarding the looks and all the other matter, what is so important is the compatibility and that both parties are having an extraordinary connection. A connection only the two of you could ever understand. And loving and being love is one thing on Earth you can never explain, so quit asking too many why’s on people who are madly in love. Haven’t you heard people who can travel on the other end of the world just to be with the person they truly love? Haven’t you heard stories about crossing the oceans, rivers, mountains, and continents just to be with the person you care about the most? And there are also stories of great people who change the course of history because of the love they had for each other, does Cleopatra and Mark Anthony an example of these odds?

Being in love and being loved back is never a chance it is always a choice, like they use to say about destiny, I rather believe that destiny is the choice we made not just a thing meant for us. We are the one who will carve our lives, so better choose the path and the person who could truly makes us happy and never settles for anything and someone less.

Online Dating Disaster

Let me share to you an online dating story e-mailed to me by one of my colleague, some of the information was edited to keep the person’s identity.

The story is about online dating gone wrong, but will give you an ending that will surely going to give all of us a great lesson.

Kristie is a late 30’s single woman who is very independent yet still believes in wonderful ending of a love story. Kristie would always want to have an ideal boyfriend or lover who could treat her right, because Kristie was having a hard time getting over an ex-boyfriend of 15 years. One night when she is checking something over the internet, she was able to browse her way to an online dating site. She joined the chat room and eventually a guy named, Ted buzz into her to get her attention.

Ted lives in the neighboring state as indicated in his profile, and from the course of their chatting, Kristie and Ted hit it off immediately so they chat almost everyday but with an inconsistent timing because Ted is working as a manager in a hotel. Ted gave Kristie his mobile number because it is the easiest way she can reach him and the phone number at work, wherein Ted stays more hours than his home. It seems that surprises never stops until Ted finally invited Kristie for a dinner.

They have their dinner in a cozy Tex-Mex restaurant, at first they seated opposite with each other but then Ted requested Kristie to seat beside her because sitting opposite to her seem to far for him. As soon as they were seated together Ted kissed her by surprise and stare like she was the only beautiful lady inside the restaurant. The dinner went out well and it is really an intimate one. Until they reached his car in the parking lot, Ted told Kristie that she was the most wonderful that ever happened to him and that he is starting to fall for her. Kristie being in a post break-up with the long time boyfriend is a very vulnerable and very hopeless romantic, would have wanted this magical moment to last.

After that first encounter, there were more dates followed, a most of it is an intimate one. They ended up always making love after each date. A very passionate love with a very romantic man who would always say I love you to Kristie, who wouldn’t fall for that kind of man?

Then one day, Ted emailed Kristie, confiding that he is actually a married guy. He told her that he could want everything about them to last and would still want to go on with the relationship. But he cannot leave her wife because the wife swears to take away the child from Ted, and Ted said he cannot live without the kids. So he let the choice befell on the weight of Kristie’s shoulder. Ted even told her that he swear never to touch his wife if Kristie will agree to be her mistress. With a mail like that Kristie could only say “How could you lie to me like that? I don’t want to see you ever again!”

That was the last conversation they have, after that, Kristie still find Ted joining different chat room in the same dating site. Kristie found Ted really a terrible liar and a cheater. She wonder how could a man like can manage to look in the mirror and lie over and over again. But Kristie thought that it is better to know about the lies and deceit after just a couple of months rather than go far longer a relationship that is built on lies.

Your Online Dating Help

We hear a lot of things about internet dating, the failure and the good results of it. But we may never know what online dating is all about unless we tried it right? No matter what the age and the distance was there is no way that online dating won’t be of help if you feel lonely at nights. And if you feel like talking to someone who is very attractive and interesting, just go online and you will find people who can be your buddy or your lover. 

Actually there are so plenty of stories regarding internet dating but I have browsed upon a video that is so funny and at the same time informative. It says all the things that I wanted to imply. So if you feel like you need to know how you can have a winning moment with your internet dating, you better try to watch this funny but helpful video right now.

You can always choose to believe, follow or obey what the guy in the video is trying to tell. But for me it is so true and really fun way to treat online dating in our modern society. So you choose to be lonely at home or you choose to have fun while waiting for the right one to come along?

 Basically, online dating was created so that guys and girls will overcome their fear of being rejected by a prospect lover. Honestly, rejection from someone you care about is painful but never too painful when you go online. Why? It’s because there is always someone, somewhere willing to talk to you at anytime. So why waste up more time trying to feel alone? Join the modern bandwagon of dating; there is no harm in trying!

Distant Age Doesn't Matter

There were plenty of story to tell regarding online dating. Almost everyone is so aware that this kind of dating always paired up with the pro's and the con's. But no matter what was happening around online dating, it is sure to give a wonderful experience to the person who have experience it. And some people will attest to the negative effect of this set-up. But before we dig into the negative aspect of online dating let us see and hear first wonderful stories that will truly inspire people from different places and different walk of life.

 

The story is about a widow in her late 40's, let us call her Mrs. Fox. For almost a month she is so devastated for the lost of her husband, during the course of depression she used to go out and dine in the restaurant where she and her husband used to dine. She wanted to remember everything about their relationship but it won't change the fact that her husband is gone. One day a friend from that restaurant told her to try reading things over the internet so she could refrain from reminding herself of her husband's memory. So the least she could do is to try working her way into the internet. One day while she was browsing, she joined a chat room and one guy who identified himself as Mr. Wolf send her an invite for a private messaging, and without a hesitation she accepted the invite and they end up chatting for more than an hour. And through the course of the chatting Mrs. Fox discovered that Mr. Wolf is 15 years her junior. But despite of the age difference they still get along with different issues and topic and obviously Mr. Wolf disregarded the distance between their ages.

 From that day forward they continue having conversation through IM's, Skype and phone calls. They were able to have a good and meaningful talk about a lot of things about life, and through it Mrs. Fox life was never the same again. After a few months they both decided to meet, Mrs. Fox was really nervous because she is afraid that Mr. Wolf will not going to like her in person. But all her fears disappeared when Mr. Wolf patiently waited for her in the mid table of the restaurant they pick. Mr. Wolf wear the all-out smile, hugged her, gave her a gentle kiss on the cheeks and led her to her chair. That was a nice dinner that pave way to a relationship that lead to marriage. Despite the disapproval of Mrs. Fox's children, and despite of the age difference, the two still pursue with the wedding plans and have it done. They have found heaven in each others arm and they are still happily married until now. but we may never have been married if Mr. Wolf wouldn't have told Mrs. Fox these words, "The moment I heard about you and your story, it never crossed my mind that you are older than me, all I know is that you are good enough for me because I love the way you see the beauty in every person. And most of all, I am not looking for a mom, when I said I want to marry you. I am definitely looking for a wife."

Up to now, the new Mrs. Wolf still remember the words uttered by his husband, it makes her laugh because it's funny but it touches her heart at the same time, because she never would have realized that if she didn't give online dating a break, she would never have found another husband who is willing to love her despite of all the odds. 

  

Sometimes things just happen even if we don't plan for it. And even if a lot of people say that finding the date via the internet is not working at all, you might as well want to try, so the next time you will be the one with a wonderful and inspiring true story about online dating.

You Can Never Be Ready

Would you believe that once in our lives we are meant to meet the one who can entirely change who you are as a person? Many won't believe but for people who have been through a lot in life will surely agree that there will always be this one great person who could totally change your perspective in life, and love it.

A couple of decade ago, I had this girl friend of mine who are so sweet, mischievous, and really fun to be with. There is no dull moment when Amy is around. She joke a lot, laugh a lot and talk about a lot of funny things that was happening to her from her house until her way to the university. She also got a lot of other friends she met from somewhere because she has a bubbly personality that has no equal. She can talk to different kind of person with different kinds of attitude, and she has mastered her way to always make other people happy. And she is the kind of girl who value friendship and family so much so you would feel that her happiness is indispensable.

Amy is also the kind of chic who knows what she really wants and also knows how to prioritize things in her life. But one day, she was caught unguarded by a certain situation that changes her perspective forever. Amy got a job as part-timer in one of the most popular chain of restaurant in the world. She knew somehow that she is working so she can finish her college education on time because her family can no longer afford to bring her more further in the university, so what she does is give it a try to work part-time. What she never would have thought is that she is going to meet the guy who would make her heart pound like a drum. The guy was just an ordinary guy with an average look but with a not so vibrant personality. It seems that they are the exact opposite of each other. Amy was lovable and Jessie is not. Jessie is the kind of guy you wouldn't dare talk to because he has this kind of attitude that is not so appealing to most of us. But despite of all the negative things you can see about Jessie, Amy still fell in love with this guy not knowing the reason why and what this kind of guy has to offer.

We as friends have tried to tell Amy that Jessie is not a worthy person to love so don't put up so much effort in caring for this kind of person. But as they say, when you are in love you would do just everything just to feel the love and you would never listen to what other people are saying because all you want is to be happy. Then, one day I just saw Amy crying telling me that Jessie just walked away from the relationship and never explained and never apologized for the inconvenience he had caused her. That is the very first time I see Amy sobbed like a baby who lost her precious toy, and she cried hard and I can never imagine how devastated she was. Jessie was the first guy she ever loved, and the very first guy she trusted with all her heart. We as her friends stand beside her until she overcomes the fact that Jessie left her without a word. And to make thing worst, Amy found out that Jessie left her for another girl within the workplace. And that is an additional insult to injury Amy endures.

 

As the days go by, I can see Amy lost her sweet and vibrant personality. I felt that she hate the world because after all the goodness and greatness she has shown everybody and a nobody like Jessie has the nerve to hurt her. The old Amy never came back up to now, after the betrayal she quietly pursue her long time dream of finding a stable job and land on a place where she can be happy. And she did everything in her life with a breeze but we can no longer see the funny Amy we used to have. She is never the same after her first heart break and the way she dealt with guys are much more different than when she was with Jessie. And I courageously ask her why she has to change drastically, she told me "I am not stupid not to learn from that painful experience, I just don't want to feel empty and worthless ever again in my life, I can no longer tolerate anybody stepping on me and my pride ever again. All I know is the moment I met Jessie, I was ready to love and even more ready to be happy but not prepared to get hurt. So the next time I will go into a relationship I will not left myself unguarded, I will prepare myself to hurting more than ever because it makes things easier and it makes me feel better." Honestly, I was amazed by her answer and it holds true. When you are looking for love, you are ready to be happy and be loved but never ready to take the pain if things go wrong.

20 long years has gone by and I am happy to see Amy raising a family and nurturing a very healthy married life that she can never imagine. And to make the story funny, 15 years later after the break-up, Jessie and Amy bumped into each other and Jessie immediately noticed that Amy just aged a bit and still holds the same vibrant face she used to have. During the short meet-up Jessie can't help but ask Amy if she's happy now with her life, and Amy just say "Yes, Oh yes I'm happy with the man who will love me more than himself," leaving Jessie with a sour look in his face that aged a lot.

Distance Don't Matter

The probability of having a lasting long-distance relationship is not so good based on statistics. But why do I believe in statistics and hearsay that long distance love affairs won't work at all. When there are some instances that the love separated by distance will still work and endure the test of time. Hear out the story of my friend whom I met overseas, because up to now I am still fascinated how they started an affair that they still cling on up to this time.

My friends are both Asian, and I have met them when I was still working in an Asian country. They are both a lovable individual, the guy was the soft-spoken type and the girl is a good conversationalist. The guy was the shy type and the girl was the opposite, many people who know them will exactly conclude that they are both standing on the opposite side of the magnet pole that is the very reason why they attract each other. And there are only one thing that keep this couple busy together and that is cooking Asian meal for their breakfast, lunch and dinner. No questions asked, they both love to eat as well and with simple needs and a simple life I find them really happy about each others company.

Things don't end up well when the Asian economy suffered a lot of losses during those times, the couple’s visa and job was seriously affected. Since me and my friends are both expatriates on that Asian country, the only choice left for them is that one of them have to leave the host country so that they could still support the needs of their family. The girl went back home to their own country and the guy kept his visa and work alone in the foreign land.

A decision like that is never easy, leaving behind the one you live to love. But the will to keep the relationship going on is one tough task they both have to endure. Considering the temptation, the never ending test of faith for one another is not a joke. But I am happy to hear that after 10 long years these couple are still together and keeping the long distance love flare burning. I might say the relationship is never perfect but they both manage to keep the relationship enduring. I admire my dear friends for keeping the flame alive after all the trying times in their relationship and I am happy to say that they have to say thanks to the frequent communication brought about by the modern technology of this time. They make the relationship worthy by constantly chatting about sweet-nothings, seriously talking about matters that have to be weighed accordingly, respect each others feeling and most of all having the patience to understand that they can never touch each other for quite a long time. And most of all giving themselves the reason to miss each other for each passing day they are not together.

We may never know when is a situation right or wrong, but the thing of beauty this modern age has brought into our lives is to keep a constant communication with the people we care about. And if you are still single never loose hope meeting the perfect match for you, because the World Wide Web could possibly be helping you out finding the partner you have been waiting for all your life. And if the distance was so great, you never had to worry anymore because as long as you keep the communication clear and open all the time, you are sure to keep a long-distance relationship work. So quit waiting for miracle to happen you simply have to make miracle works for you.

Happy Ending from Simple Dating

Some people say that the closest thing to what you called heaven and happiness is getting yourself a perfect partner. And if you got the worst partner ever you can easily conclude that you have the opposite road to heaven. We all want a slice of true love and the real feeling of being loved back and appreciated for who you are. Isn't it simple, find the perfect love and be perfectly happy? But the thing is, it holds true to some people but not actually real for non-believer. Yes if there are people who believes in magic there are also who does not. So how can one look for the spark and the flame that could eventually be the start of a refreshing romance that could turn out to be life-changing?

Lot of people try the many ways on how they could finally meet the better half they are looking for. Some people are so lucky to find them so easily. They found the perfect match just right across the neighborhood, some were casually bumped into a restaurant and some were met in the workplace where you can have more chances of getting to know the person better because a person spent more time working rather than staying at home. If in some cases it is comes out easy but for others who are hardly struggling to meet the right one, and even if they does find the person, the relationship itself is not working out well, and didn't turn out to be something meant for lifetime.

Is it because we are looking and expecting only the best thing in life? Or is it that we are focusing more likely on the person's perfection? Or are we afraid to take the risk of falling for someone who is not even as close to the reality of the person we wanted to meet? Some of the questions are one of the valid reasons why some of us are always into the brink of having a failed relationship rather than finding the spark of what they called real and true love.

Let us look at it in a very simple manner, if you want to find the right one you might want to try looking for someone who does not look perfect. Because a girl or a boy who is very good looking are very catchy in the eyes of other people, you may easily conclude that having a good looking person beside you will just give more heartbreaks because a lot of people of the third persona will try to steal him/her away from you, and the most good looking of them all will take home the trophy. Looking for someone who is accomplished, rich and famous would be even harder to deal with. But I am not saying that you look for someone who has no dream at all, and is a total nobody what I am trying to imply is to keep your choices easy to find and simple, yet have a character and a morale to keep someone his/her lifetime partner even if everything turns gray and boring, he/she will be staying beside you till your last breath.

So the next time you choose to have a date, start with a simple wish that everything else will end up just fine and hopefully will end up into something better. You might want to find those people while browsing dating site like loveme.ph.